Originally published on iampeacemaker, August 24, 2023
Buddha taught that to reach an enlightened state of nirvana you must first get rid of your ego.
This is not as hard as it might sound, but for some good tips, read on.
If you worry what other people think of you it’s a sure sign that you have an ego.
Being sensitive to other people’s opinions of you, if you need other people to compliment you to feel good about yourself, or if you need to look pretty to feel happy, you have an ego.
When we want to live in states of peace and enlightenment, an ego is an obstacle. It is an unwanted connection to the consumerist, materialistic world. Ego will keep you from transcending the troubles of your worldly life.
We are meant to transcend earthly troubles. Finding ongoing joy in money or things will prevent you from ascending to enlightenment. Having money is useful in society, but believe me, coming from a person with a mental illness who is unable to keep a regular job, it is perfectly possible to have no money and feel perfectly content with life and death.
In other words, we want to source our joy from within, where we can control inner happiness, as opposed to giving up control to any circumstances.
Now regarding love:
Don’t be fooled by appearances.
If we care what other people look like, or how we worry that someone else might make us look good or bad, is ego. Light, Love and Truth in people should be much more attractive
We are beings of light energy. How people look is an illusion.
We may have been “blessed” by physical beauty. Or we may have been “cursed” by an ugly appearance.
Some see beauty as a curse, and poor looks can hide brilliance, but it is there.
Don’t be fooled; appearance is an illusion. Handsome or ugly, fat or skinny, strong or weak, healthy or physically ill, makes absolutely no difference to whether or not we can experience pure joy.
If people don’t accept us because we look different, we might find ourselves happier than someone who is more physically attractive, because we don’t attract as many shallow people, unfortunately drawn to beauty.
So basing happiness on attractiveness will leave disappointment because as we grow old, we usually lose our looks. It’s our network that matters.
Don’t judge yourself on how you look, either.
This body is no more a frame of blood, bones, and flesh through which the electricity in our nervous systems experiences our senses, the life we came to learn from before going back to our spiritual home with the new lessons we’ve learned.
If we are fat and want to lose weight shouldn’t affect how happy we are. We generally feel healthier if lighter in weight, but we can also be completely content while beginning to improve our health, too.
Happiness is a choice we make when we let go of judging ourselves.
Heavy, ugly, handsome, too fat or too skinny; people are still people who may have a beautiful soul like anyone else.
Rich or poor, difficult, or easy?
People who have had an easy life financially or with good looks, may be at a disadvantage in finding lasting happiness due to not learning the lessons that failure or loss teach. Their inner strength may be undeveloped or they find an inability to experience the sweet joy of bittersweet memories that we learn from loss.
Through pain and hardship we learn flexibility and fearlessness.
The thing to remember about money and things is that we can’t take them with us when we pass on.
IF WE BASED HAPPINESS on money or things, we would not experience an enlightened self or nirvana, because in death we would lose everything important to us.
Look up! Notice life and Universal beauty!
When we detach happiness from consumerism and learn happiness with nothing, we experience inner joy by the small things that money can’t buy, like joy, peace, nature, animals, and existence in general.
Our lives are full of awe-inspiring beauty if you look for it, and we don’t need money to enjoy it if we can appreciate it within a simple lifestyle.
On people pleasing, being used, treating people kindly.
It’s not possible to please everyone, but don’t give up on kindness.
If someone is angry because you don’t give them what is yours, then separate from that person. Being used hurts, so don’t put up with abuse, just walk away.
People only change because they want to. Don’t wish your love to change them. You should like them how they are or leave them alone out of respect.
This is the empath/narcissist quagmire, the co-dependent relationship of trying to please and change someone who is happy using you. You can’t make someone happy who doesn’t want to be happy.
You’ve been abandoned, rejected, scapegoated, and gaslit, this world can be cruel. So transcend it. Take courage in your own company.
Learn to generate happiness from within yourself, without needs, but supporting others as you can.
Reading, learning, moving, growing, creating, teaching, healing, shining your light by using your spiritual gifts, and don’t force it on anyone. Most people are of the world. They will never appreciate your sensitivity to spiritual things.
So don’t be afraid to venture out alone.
If we just focus your attention on doing our own thing, the right people will be attracted to us, so don’t fight to keep the people who treat us unkindly. We can’t properly love others if we don’t love ourselves anyway.
Become who you want to be on your own. We alone, are enough.
Once you’ve detached your ego from things and people, you are free to try, fail, learn, and grow without disappointment! Find happiness in trying!
The point of life is learning to enjoy the journey!
This freedom is so much better than people-pleasing. This is why people go on sabbaticals.
So it’s critical to rest for at least one full day per week, relieve the pressure of performing, enjoy the fruits of our labours and creation, one sweet drawn-out moment at a time.
Let things be and exist as is.
This way we apply less pressure than can or should handle, or else we are feeding our egos and worldly attachments.
To help let go of ego, mindfully meditate to observe, bless each thought, and release.
Refocus attention to breathing to once again center our awareness, without getting attached to any thought. Freeing our minds lets our intuition take over to clean up the place, so just rest and observe.
Our heart-mind connection is a tool of transformation, so to help our surrounding environment we can inhale negativity, and exhale positivity. Inhale sickness, exhale healing. Inhale hatred, exhale love.
Inhale, exhale. Bless each thought and let it go. Inhale anger, exhale peace.
Continue mindful observance of your thoughts. Inhale tension, exhale peace.
If we find it gets stressful, prayer and relying on God helps to lift our weary burdens.
In so doing you are living for humanity instead of yourself, raising the earth’s vibration, and successfully releasing your ego.
Light, peace, and wholeness,
Enlillie.
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